Why Balance And Love Are So Vital And Critical For Empowering
Here is an article by Kuchikomi -
Nov. 21, 2009 which appeared in
Japan Today -
Introduction here by HelpMeWithMaths.Com:
A REAL CHOICE FOR ALL LOVING PARENTS!
Attention all genuine loving moms and dads, after you study this profound article and message, you
will have a real choice of how you can nurture your kids, and better prepare them to live and enjoy a more
effective and rewarding life ...
As great, important and valuable as it is to arm our kids with superior math skills for every child's
development and future success, it can only come a poor and distant second when we consider the critical importance
of giving a child a superior balance in life.
Once we empower our children with the ability to choose and secure a balanced joyous and happy life, we will
have given the child the most valuable gift we can ever give them.
A gift that is far more important than excelling in math or any other field of endeavor in life.
Many parents will probably brush aside this information and say it is just mindless diatribe by the deluded, and
that a great education is more valuable than superficial worthless ideals like balance and love to prepare a child
for a successful life in the ruthless digital world ahead.
But our reply to this objection is that this is not the best path for our kids if we genuinely want them to
enjoy a long happy and rewarding life.
Because as you well know, there are more valuable things in life then money and trinkets.
Most of us squander our lives collecting as many trinkets as we can so that we can belittle our friends and
neighbors by showing them just how powerful we are and just how inferior they are.
We are so deluded that we fail to see the great dangers in our thinking and behavior.
But what is even more alarming are the erroneous scarcity based lessons that we are teaching our very own kids.
So that the vicious cycle can continue for another generation.
We teach them to be frightened insecure people who must strive each day to achieve success at all cost, no
matter what the consequences, because there isn't enough wonderment in the universe to share with everyone.
And this is the most tragic gift that we can give our kids.
Teaching them that they are the sum of all the trinkets that they accumulate in their lifetime.
The tragedy of living this fearful scarcity way is that we end up erroneously believing that we are only as
valuable as our cash and trinkets. Which leads us to great misery.
And what are we worth when we lose all our cash and trinkets?
The answer can only be ... NOTHING!
Which is wrong, but it is too late to change our erroneous beliefs about our true worth at this late stage.
So we turn to pills and other convenient uppers to boost our fragile egos.
Balance Is Everything!
Yes, balance really is everything.
When a child enjoys a balanced life, they are better able to cope with the hills and hollows of every
This special website is dedicated to that goal, to help you to empower your kids with a precious balanced
And we can achieve this magical gift by choosing to give our kids UNCONDITIONAL LOVE.
That means to be strong with them, so they know that they have to do their very best for themselves, but at the
same time, to make sure that loving them is more important than how they do at school.
We must let them know with absolute clarity that we love them no matter how they perform at math or at school.
And that how they live their lives as happy caring and loving people is far more important then what our friends
and neighbors may think about us as parents.
That why many of us force and pressure our kids to get outstanding grades at school ... because we want our
friends and neighbors to think that we are good parents ... and it doesn't matter if we are pushing our kids into
dangerous situations where they erroneous believe that taking their own lives is a far less painful option
than letting their parents down.
Now here is a disturbing article we came across online the Japan Today website that reveals the great
dangers when parents and societies get raising healthy balanced kids wrong.
The results are so fatal for the kids!
We hope that we can all learn from Japan's mistakes and focus on being genuine unconditional loving parents to
our kids, no matter where we may live in the world.
Do make sure that you study our Math Wealth Kool Tool soon for some enlightenment about balance. The First
Wealth component is very important -
Math Wealth Kool
THE JAPAN TODAY ARTICLE
Children's depression and suicide a worsening
Kuchikomi Nov. 21, 2009 - 03:00AM JST ( 41 )
Here is an excerpt, presented by Shukan Asahi (Nov 27), from the suicide note left by an
“All I can think of is death. I realize that once you die it’s all over; still, if
there is a next life I’d like to come back as an animal like [my pet dog], who doesn’t cause anyone any trouble and
even when he does weird things, nobody pays any attention. I’m sorry I couldn’t be better than I was.
Japan’s suicide rate is notoriously high. For the past decade it’s been above 30,000 a year.
Overwhelmingly, suicide is an adult phenomenon—but not exclusively, and the clinical depression
that generally underlies it, Shukan Asahi finds, is steadily trickling down the age scale. Hokkaido University
professor Kenzo Denda, author of a book on children’s depression, has published research showing that one
elementary school child in 12 suffers from the condition. Among junior high school students the rate is one in
To psychologist Rie Ueki, that sounds like an understatement. The problem is worse, she says, than
a standardized survey can show.
Ueki had treated “A-kun,” the 11-year-old suicide, and knew his family. Both his parents were
lawyers, the very personifications of success. Dinner-table talk was of “winners” and “losers.”
A-kun, listening quietly, knew what was expected of him. Measured against such standards, how could
he help doubting himself? He feigned strength and happiness, but often his defenses broke down. Trivial slights
would overwhelm him. A friend refusing to share his gum with him could plunge him into a sulk that lasted a day and
The parents at last sought medical help, and Ueki diagnosed clinical depression. To her, A-kun
would confess the inner turmoil he tried to keep hidden from his parents. “I’ve been suffering since grade one,” he
said. “Why was I born?”
National Police Agency statistics cited by Shukan Asahi show nine children committed suicide in
Japan last year. It’s not a shockingly high number, but, says Ueki, “I meet children in hospitals who, even if they
haven’t actually killed themselves, seem on the very brink of it—if they kill themselves tomorrow, it wouldn’t
surprise me. A-kun was not a special case.”
The obvious question is, what drives such young children to such extremes of despair? There’s no
easy answer, Shukan Asahi hears from specialists. Children, unlike adults, can’t articulate their deeper feelings.
Sometimes they express themselves through violence, deviant sexual behavior, shoplifting—but these acts don’t “look
like” depression, and even doctors don’t always get the message.
Ueki’s hypothesis is that a child’s depression invariably indicates something seriously off kilter
in the family. There are various signs—the obsession with “winning” and “losing” in the case of A-kun’s family, for
instance. Children aware of parents’ extramarital affairs are also at risk, as are, of course, children of parents
suffering from depression and stress themselves.
“What children need above all,” says Ueki, “is their parents’ unconditional love. A child who is
loved does not become depressed. But nowadays many parents complain of being unable to love their children, to take
pleasure in them. These days, it seems more difficult than ever to give children a normal upbringing.”
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